I've heard this so many times...some from sweet talkers who I think are for real, that calling me 'sweetie' or 'baby' shows me that they are serious about commitement...that it's a form of actions to show me they are serious...about me...
Then from others who are honest about taking it little bit at a time, just going slow...no real leading on with emotional sweet words or affection...
'Seeing where it goes' is a dangerous term I think guys overuse without really thinking or knowing what it means to us ladies....so here's some insight...
Guys seem to forget...that the words 'seeing where it goes' IS a form of commitement. It's Telling the woman they ARE worthwhile to go further...that they are the one they want to seriously see where it goes...it's thier way of saying they want you, they truly miss you when you aren't around, can't stop thinking about you....
Guys seem to forget that for us gals we build up emotions for them everytime we spend time with them in any form...the shared glances...wanting more and more everytime we see them and be with them, talk to them, share with them....wanting to just feel thier arms around you,feel them kiss you...while they're possibly feeling nothing....and you aren't even sure what thier feeling...
So what does it really mean when a guy says 'lets see where this goes' but doesn't claim more then friends? That the woman isn't worth really going somewhere with? What's the point of really even saying that then....just come out and say that the woman isn't worth your time b.c you dont see in them what you really want.
Don't get me wrong....I'm not saying that the concept of taking time and getting to know someone before living with them or marrying them is wrong. Heck my standard is serious relationship and living with them for atleast 2 years, then get married....im in no rush to be married. So what's wrong with having a slow actual relationship till then....holding hands, exploring boyfriend and girlfriend,enjoying true companionship...going slow in an intimate and exclusive relationship....?
That's what made me realize....that's the diffrence. If someone is really interested then they will want to claim you before another guy does...and from there see where it goes. That to me...is where the term should really be used...until then....'just friends' is more true to term.
I'll be the first to admit ....
I know im not perfect....but I am an amazing and unique woman with alot of things to offer someone who's looking for something grand.
'I am a beautiful rose...ripe and perfect for picking...wait too long to pluck me up and I will either wilt or be taken by someone else...'
And if the guy isnt bothered by the fact that someone else would swoop in and take you, or watching someone else claim you as thier girlfriend- move on....they aren't serious about you and dont let them drag you through fake ideas,hopes,possibilities....all it will be in the long run for you...is torture.You're heart will just grow in hopes,affection and lead to falling in love with someone who's just there for the ride.
Lesson learned....when a guy says 'Lets see where it goes' but doesn't pluck you for thier own....they don't mean it. Not in a commited...you are worthwhile to take the journey with kind of way.
Then from others who are honest about taking it little bit at a time, just going slow...no real leading on with emotional sweet words or affection...
'Seeing where it goes' is a dangerous term I think guys overuse without really thinking or knowing what it means to us ladies....so here's some insight...
Guys seem to forget...that the words 'seeing where it goes' IS a form of commitement. It's Telling the woman they ARE worthwhile to go further...that they are the one they want to seriously see where it goes...it's thier way of saying they want you, they truly miss you when you aren't around, can't stop thinking about you....
Guys seem to forget that for us gals we build up emotions for them everytime we spend time with them in any form...the shared glances...wanting more and more everytime we see them and be with them, talk to them, share with them....wanting to just feel thier arms around you,feel them kiss you...while they're possibly feeling nothing....and you aren't even sure what thier feeling...
So what does it really mean when a guy says 'lets see where this goes' but doesn't claim more then friends? That the woman isn't worth really going somewhere with? What's the point of really even saying that then....just come out and say that the woman isn't worth your time b.c you dont see in them what you really want.
Don't get me wrong....I'm not saying that the concept of taking time and getting to know someone before living with them or marrying them is wrong. Heck my standard is serious relationship and living with them for atleast 2 years, then get married....im in no rush to be married. So what's wrong with having a slow actual relationship till then....holding hands, exploring boyfriend and girlfriend,enjoying true companionship...going slow in an intimate and exclusive relationship....?
That's what made me realize....that's the diffrence. If someone is really interested then they will want to claim you before another guy does...and from there see where it goes. That to me...is where the term should really be used...until then....'just friends' is more true to term.
I'll be the first to admit ....
I know im not perfect....but I am an amazing and unique woman with alot of things to offer someone who's looking for something grand.
'I am a beautiful rose...ripe and perfect for picking...wait too long to pluck me up and I will either wilt or be taken by someone else...'
And if the guy isnt bothered by the fact that someone else would swoop in and take you, or watching someone else claim you as thier girlfriend- move on....they aren't serious about you and dont let them drag you through fake ideas,hopes,possibilities....all it will be in the long run for you...is torture.You're heart will just grow in hopes,affection and lead to falling in love with someone who's just there for the ride.
Lesson learned....when a guy says 'Lets see where it goes' but doesn't pluck you for thier own....they don't mean it. Not in a commited...you are worthwhile to take the journey with kind of way.